Friday, 20 February 2009

Our Baitul Muslim - PART I


Seperti yang dijanji kan...and with Abang Yusof's approval....I will tell our story of love...you might ask, kenapa nak cite perkahwinan sendiri, cam orang lain tak de yg kahwin ke..hehe..but I hope by sharing this story will maybe help others in their quests in fulfilling half of the deen, dan juga semoga kita semua dapat amik yang baik sebagai pengajaran dan yang buruk sebagai pengajaran, inshaAllah...

I also thought that our story is unique and before this happened, penulis tak sangka it will or can happen at all to herself, but now, the author learned and believed that if Allah wills, anything can happen...

Maaf seperti biasa tulisan campur english and malay, out of kelemahan penulis untuk menulis full in malay...

Background cerita kami

Kami dikenalkan oleh pihak ketiga....jadinya, i dont really kenal abang yusof, never ever seen him in my entire life before...i know that he is a student in Al Azhar University and he joins usrah over there...that is about as much as I know of him...and from our correspondence with emails, i also know that he is a very quiet and skema person...hehe (jangan marah,abang ;-) ) After a few more correspondence, I learned that our background is very different...he lived in Sabah, and he is not even a malay, he is a Bajau, and his family lifestyle is really different than mine, they live very modestly and had to work hard since a child, while for me, alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed us with many blessings....so there we were...

At first, i didnt feel interested as much, due to ALL of our differences ..but later on, Allah has opened my heart to do istikharah, so I did.... perhaps Allah will guide me to a closure on this matter....and miraculously, everytime after solah istikharah, i felt that calmness and serenity...but again my brain took over the heart (or is it syaitan) and starts calculating all the differences that we had, and so, in the end, I decided to 'test' him..

The test

Oh by the way, all the while, Abang Yusof mmg lama dah determine nak kahwin, dunno la, from what he told me after we got married, he did istikharah and immediately feels and determined that I am the one for him (he decided well before he saw my picture)...so memang tak jadi masalah on his part...the problem was from my side...iskk...

At that time Abang Yusof was still in Egypt, and the flight ticket to go back to Malaysia was not cheap, plus considering he was studying with his own money, and no scholarship... oh ye, gambar disebelah is the first picture that he gave me...hensem gak la :), that was him in his house in Tanta...

Anyway, I told abang yusof that if he really wants to get married to me, he should first call my father...(for your information, my father is very strict aka garang...bertempat la of course, anak2 semua hormat pada dia, so, it will be a tough challenge for anybody to talk to my dad at that time)...plus my father pernah refuse a hand in marriage from another al azhar student....lagi la challenging for abg yusof...

So, I gave him my father's phone number, and I told him that if my father says OK, we can proceed...abang yusof yang pemalu ni berkobar2 and rang my dad...surpisingly, my father lembut hati pulak...boleh chat lama2...at that time i was thinking, doa apa la ustaz ni duk baca...hehehe

Syaitan still plays tricks on me... dia tu cam ni lah, cam tu lah etc etc... but everytime (honestly)..everytime solat istikharah mesti rasa aman dan tenteram, tak pernah felt like that before..cuma lepas beberapa jam, syaitan cucuk balik...so, i decided to test him again...(iskk, mesti org pikir jahatnye makcik ni...well...that was what I can think of at that time)...

I told him that if he is serious, he need to come to my house in Selangor and meet my parents...if they are happy with him, i will just follow (masa tu tak leh fikir secara waras dah, banyak sgt cucukan syaitan yg menghasut berfikiran secara duniawi)...but there is no assurance that they will accept him or I will accept him...just have to do it and see....

Amazingly, abang yusof gather the money and balik Malaysia....(I thought if not serious, dia akan kata tak worth ke, apa ke)....sampai di KLIA my parents jemput abang yusof...dah siap2 bagi gambar kat ayah, so that mereka tahu mana satu abang yusof....

His courage and my family

Since ambil kat KLIA, abang yusof stayed in my parents house for maybe seminggu...(imagine duk ngan rumah orang yg tak dikenali, dan juga berniat nak kahwin ngan anak tuan rumah tu)...disebabkan at that time he has no relatives in selangor...

But of course my family, is a hospitable family...mereka layan abang yusof seeloknya, very welcoming....cuma kelakar la a bit, ayah masa tu tak henti2 amik gamba abang yusof ...susun abang yusof berdiri ngan adik beradik lain...and sent all the pictures to me by email since I was still in UK and i have never seen this man face to face... its just that in my family semua tinggi2...in fact i was the shortest, after my mom...hehe...

Coming back to me, I always have difficulties in making decision of my life, normally I will just ask my parents to decide for me, coz its very easy, and am sure, they will really think hard of what is best for their daughter...so I told my dad, if ayah dan mak suka, kak lin ikut je...dan ketika itulah, my dad scolded me and said...we cannot determine the future for you, you need to decide, and you cannot decide until you have met the man face to face (as per sunnah to see the person you want to get married beforehand)....I still remember, my dad even said to me...this is more important that the phD, this will be your life, until the end of breath and till the hereafter...

I told my dad to say to abang yusof that i will give my decision when i come back for raya in 2 months time (sbb dh beli tiket dah nak balik raya)... tapi ayah, again scolded me...he said, mana boleh buat ustaz tu tertunggu2 camtu, dahlah dia duduk rumah kita dah dekat seminggu, kene bagi keputusan secepat mungkin..tak baik menzalimi orang...he told me to go back to malaysia ASAP...

So...the next thing i knew, i rushed to buy flight tickets to Malaysia...kelam kabut...akhirnya dapat the next day nye flight...haru biru time tu ngan kene amik tiket kat kedai cina di manchester la (alhamdulillah ada maziah who accompany me during the haru biru time...hehe, thanks)...dan akhirnya... i was on the flight back to Malaysia...

Bersambung.....

ps: inshaAllah in the end, akan di ringkaskan of all the lessons we can learn from this piece of our lives..

6 comments:

Iman said...

menarik ;D thanks for sharing.Its important to the process.Org kata kne buat istikharah.But sometimes dah buat pn we still doubt.

Sambung la nnti ;D!

2la, kalau dah Jodoh di tangan Tuhan.Segalanya dia mudahkan...

SOLYMONE said...

Ana Muslim,
Assalammualaikum,
Salam perkenalan untuk mu dan juga husband mu .Dengan doa semuga gembira dan bahagia bersama husband mu selalu. InshaAllah
.
First and foremost, I am sorry if my comments are inappropriate. However after going through the background of your borderless love story tale, I cannot help but curious and wondering how the earth can be sometimes, that small.

What attracts me most is your husband and me are coming from the same race (Bajau) and possibly from the same district (Tuaran) in Sabah… I guess.

Pertaining to your story, it is indeed interesting to know that both of you are initially coming from different ethnic background.
And on top of that, both of you don’t even know and haven’t seen each other personally until the D-Day.
Yet, both of you were finally getting married happily to each other.

Normally, it is very hard to believe now a day. But then again, it meticulously happened. Congratulation to both of you. I don’t really know the ending of your story, yet.

However, sekali lagi saya doakan semuga di cucuri rahmat hingga ke anak cucu.
Bye and thanks

Eliyana Saliha Elias said...

akak! 1st time kot sy komen kt cni...=p

sy prnh dgr cite ni skit2 dulu..=)

mmg menarik..cm novel plaks...

bravo sungguh ustaz yusuf ek..

moga akak n ustaz bahagia hinggan ke akhir hayat! ameen..=)

ana muslim said...

To Iman : betui tu, jodoh dah ditentukan sejak azali...jadi dont worry... :)

To Mr. Solymone : Waalaikumussalam wr, salam perkenalan juga buat encik daripada saya dan suami...Yeap, my husband is from Tuaran, Sg. Damit, to be more specific.. maybe one day when we come back home, we can pay you a visit...Thank you for showing interest in our writings and thank you for wishing us happiness in our marriage...From my reading of your profile, we do hope you will make a real change for the better in Tuaran, thus help the people over there..all the best to you!

To Ely : hehe, well thanks for commenting...there will always be the first time for everything...thanks kerana mendoakan kami...and moga ely too will complete half of ur deen soon, inshaAllah :)

saint's said...

hai.
ana muslim,
well, i feel attracted to leave a comment here,
i am on my way to my wedding too, in this june,
here i see that we have a little similar things,
like when the first time want to tell my parent about my decision to get married, i feel so worry,
as my father is strict, i can only tell my mother,
but anyway everything goes smoothly,
walaupun as u always said, ada je masa i will think bukan2..
betul ke keputusan nk nikah ni.. am i choose a right time..n mcm2 la.
jez same wit u..
but i believe that everybody in this situation will feel the same, so i get used to it and be optimistic,
but i wonder how u get to be close to each other and put away your shy.. emm because me wit my future husband we've been friend for a long time so i jes cannot imagine. like a novel story..(i slalu terbyang jd kat i dulu but its not =p)but quite interesting la..not all people can feel that =")
well.. hope u with ur husband will happily ever after,=)

ana muslim said...

assalamualaikum 'saint', thank you for your comments and doa..lepas kawin baru kami nak kenal, tapi alhamdulillah, Allah mudahkan segalanya....moga saint juga dimudahkan perkahwinannya dan kekal hingga ke syurga..ameen..