Malay Weddings and my ramblings...

Malam ni, sambil menunggu kek masak, surf internet sat...

mula2 terjumpa kat youtube org bersilat utk pengantin yg sedang bersanding...drp situ tengok pula perkahwinan melayu (malay wedding)...

Saja nak komen di sini... org melayu ni mmg sgt rapat dengan Islam...wedding yg pasangan tak bertudung pun di mulai dengan bacaan doa...lepas tu mula lah dengan tarian wanita yg berlenggok2....erm...Islam mula menjadi adat istiadat semata-mata....

Saya masih ingat lagi masa mula2 dtg ke UK wat phd ni, ada akak sorang tu (dah keje jadi doktor masa tu) baru kawin...dengan gembira dan bangga nya dia tunjuk album gambar dia...dia sehari2 kat sini pakai la tudung (walaupun tak cukup syarat)...tapi masa kawin tu seme gambar dia tak pakai tudung...tapi zaman2 dolu2 ini sudah lumrah org kita..

Namun skrg, sikit demi sedikit malay wedding starts to change...org ramai boleh dah terima takde persandingan dalam perkahwinan...mungkin ada org tertanya2, kenapa tak leh sanding, apa salahnya? bukannya duk buka aurat pun? well....salahnya krn menayang2 kan pengantin perempuan tu...perempuan tu cantek bukan utk di pertontonkan kat org yg datang...kadang2 siap ada yg komen, canteknya isteri dia, lagi cantek drp isteri si 'anu' dan si 'anu'....iskkk..tak ada kurangnya dengan pertandingan ratu cantek...

Perkahwinan yg excessive....apa pulak ni? Semenya nak excessive, nak hotel 5 bintang la, nak band dtg nyanyi la, hantaran berpuluh2 ribu la...melampau pembazirannya...kalau kita tgk masa zaman rasulullah s.a.w. dulu, seme nya simple...mana ada hantaran2 ni...maskawin ada la...relax je, tak yah nak wat kat hotel 5 bintang, semuanya simple...dan perkahwinan di berkati...

Masalahnya kengkadang tu, bukan pengantin, tapi keluarga pengantin...kadang2 tu bukan nya mak ayah pengantin, tapi makcik2 yg paling sibuk...hehe...teringat sorang sahabat yg cerita dia di paksa mekap macam2, siap kene buli bukak tudung masa kawin dia...mak dia pun tak terdaya, ikut je pressure makcik2 sekeliling...iskk...kesian dia jadi mangsa keadaan...org kita ni pun satu, kalau nak pressure buat benda yg makruf takpe gak..ni lain pulak jadinya...

Salah ke kalau nak wat my wedding jadi yg best punya, an unforgettable occasion? Erm...kalau sy yg menjawab soalan ni, sila tepuk dada, tanya iman...of course its a happy occasion and you deserve to be happy...tapi ukurlah baju di badan sendiri...plus, bersederhana is always a good choice....yg penting yg wajib setel dan perkahwinan itu di berkati...apa gunanya happy di mata dan dengan tahniah pelbagai pihak, walhal, Allah tidak 'please' dengan occasion kita itu, or wedding kita membuatkan org cemburu kat kita, tak baik gak...

Ok lah, setakat ni saja my ramblings for tonite... I have so many things to do, May Allah help me...ni setakat cakap2 kosong pada malam hari sambil tunggu kek...esok kami wat open hall di Firth Park, jemputlah dtg..sewa dewan ngan 5 keluarga lain...and my task is to make deserts...my husband's task is to wash all the dishes...hehehe.. baru lah adil, kan? :)

WoMeN, LaDy, GirL & BeauTy

Assalamualaikum wr wbt pembaca yang disayangi sekalian,

Saya terpanggil untuk menulis diatas ‘desakan’ saudara yang saya kasihi..in a way, I agree that although I might not be a good writer n bukan org seni, tapi, at least just try your best and convey the idea to masyarakat kita yang amat dikasihi ini..


Kisah minggu ini : WoMeN, LaDy, GirL & BeauTy :

I’ve just read the news from bbc and magazine yang dikeluarkan oleh Sheffield student union, called stiletto which was dedicated for women matters.. one thing that caught my eyes was the hot issue now à SIZE ZERO..

Erm, what is actually size zero? Basically size baju model-model catwalk yang kurus kering, some of them are anorexic, and their clothes are in size 4!! Okey, realistically, most of us will have a size of 12 (UK size) so, size 8 memang la kecik, size 4 is like, all the ribcage semua nampak..and sad part is that they are proud of this and many of us are following their footsteps..

Stop kejap..erm..so what? Well, yang jadi masalah di dunia sekarang, ie italy, spain, UK , USA, all the World, including Malaysia too? is that anak-anak muda kita semua nak ikut model-model yang wajah dan badan mereka terpampang di dada-dada akhbar dan majalah..to be SIZE ZERO…lagi kurus lagi cantekk! Maybe tak seteruk kot kat mesia? But kat UK and Europe teruk la masalah ni..

“A spokeswoman for Beating Eating Disorders, formerly the Eating Disorders Association, said there were an estimated 1.1 million people in the UK with eating disorders. “

From here timbulla eating disorder ..muntahkan makanan bila dah makan..makan salad je everyday..or skipping meals…dan masyarakat juga mempunyai pandangan yang THIN is beautiful.. is this view correct? Betul ke tak betul, we have to admit yang most of us will think like this..sadly..

Some facts : Here are some statistics from bbc news
(http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6376367.stm)

In BBC news it was reported that Italy dah buat undang-undang untuk meletakkan model yang sihat sahaja ie no more size zero..banyakla reaksi drp pelbagai pihak..spain pun cam tu gak..dah mulakan langkah..sbb dah meningkat eating disorder in their countries, they are worried their youngsters dah mula berpenyakit hasil drp media yang memegahkan model-model berbadan lidi..

Now..what do we say?

We, muslims, are not suppose to caught up with their views…but as ada sorang kawan ni cakap, kita ni mangsa keadaan.. masyarakat kita ni mangsa keadaan..kalau tak kurus, tak cantikla..kurus tu penting..sihat is not enoughla come on…kecantikan fizikal itu nombor satu, dalaman nak berulat pun peduli apa,kan?

anyhow, takkan nak jadi mangsa keadaan forever eyy? Therefore let us fight, let the islam view be the frontier view.. the most important thing is healthy.. why?? if not healthy camna nak buat keje-keje that will please Allah, rite? Hence, no issue of following these models, skinny wanna be size zero..kesian depa semua….

These all are rooted from women wanna be beautiful..well, here is a nice wrap up to those women out there…

Narrated by Abu huraira, The prophet saw said: ""Truly, Allah does not look at your outward forms and wealth, but rather at your hearts and your works"

(Sahih Muslim, 4.1389: hadith 2564)

Wallahu a’lam.