Saturday 6 February 2010

Polyamory? What the ??!!!!


Cerita-cerita Malaysia pulak la yea...bila kita baru balik drp oversea ni, nak la keep updated dgn apa yg berlaku di keliling kelalang kita...rumah saya (rumah ayah sebenarnya) melanggan newpaper The Star...so bacalah saya tiap2 hari masa duk rehat tu perkembangan semasa, apa rakyat Mesia duk pk...

Semalam pasal kes BRAIN DRAIN in Malaysia...ilmiah jugak la...nanti la ada masa inshaAllah sy nak komen...tapi today, yg mmg saya terpanggil utk komen ialah artikel ygbertajuk loving many = loving more. Ayo yooooo, sakit jiwa membaca...apa ceritanya ni? Basically, paper ni menggalakkan utk org having more than one relationship (man and women) , well, takpelah kalau polygamy, wat secara legally seme ada hak masing2...ni tak...mrk mengadvocate...OPEN RELATIONSHIP...

Haaa....apa pulak ni...basically, sorang tu, tak kira la laki kah, perempuan kah boleh ada more than one LOVER dan yg lover2 lain tu seme sepakat utk redha , tskk...basically seme wat la open relationship ni....for example, Miss Tina ada Richard, Tony, Andrew utk jadi pasnagannya, satu to fill the mental aspect, one for the emotional aspect and another for sexual aspect.... Dan setiap satu lelaki tu pun ada lover2s yg lain....

Idok ke hancur dunia ni? Pelik sungguh surat khabar sekarang ni, dgn tak malu dan tak segan silu meng war warkan yg zina (seks luar nikah, partners) ni is now should be accepted and is very trendy!! And this is in a Malaysian newspaper...yg supposedly negara Islam?

Ada artikel lain bawah tu, siap cerita pengalaman sorang org Melayu yg nama Zul tentang open relationship ni...katanya skrg perempuan2 yg berkerjaya dan gaji tinggi banyak mengamalkan many lovers ni dan ini di pelopori oleh perasaan feminism yg nak sama ratakan lelaki dan perempuan..dan org Islam pun ada banyak sexual partners...macamana la Encik Zul ni tak malu nya boleh mengaku camtu? Ohhhh dunia akhir zaman......

Depa yg advocate open relationship ni kata, lebih baik macam ni drp yg kawin tapi duk main kayu tiga kut belakang...jadi dalam kes depa ni, seme org setuju dan happy...depa duk bagi statistic yg ramai org dah kawin tapi having mistress or mister lain...tak dinafikan skrg ni ramai yg perkahwinan nya hancur lebur duk 'cari makan' kat luar....tapi this does not mean that we should go the other way of accepting concept many lovers ni!!

Oh Malaysiaku...beginilah nasib kalau manusia mengikut hawa nafsu, akal fikiran sendiri utk menafsir apa yg baik dan apa yg buruk...apa yg normal dan apa yg abnormal...apa yg acceptable dan apa yang tidak.....

Cubalah baca sendiri artikel di bawah ni...and let me know what you think....

ps : Hanya Islam yg mampu membawa semua kembali waras...kembali kepada fitrah kemanusiaan...

xxx Ana Muslim yg pening, duk negara sendiri tapi rasa cam duk kat negara barat je...

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The sun newspaper 7 Feb 2010

Loving many = loving more?

Stories by ANDREW SIA

Last week, we looked at spouses who stray. The alternative to monogamy, some suggest, is polyamory

RAYMOND spends two nights a week at the condo of Susan, who also meets up with Michael for meals, movies and sometimes “a bit more” at his place. Yew Ling is Raymond’s occasional travel cum romance partner on short holidays. Michael also has a few companions cum girlfriends.

All the parties know about each other and are cool about it – a classic open relationship. These well-educated, middle-class, English-speaking Malaysian Chinese, all living around the Klang Valley, are a nascent example of polyamory (literally, many loves).

A Newsweek article last July calls it “the next sexual revolution”.

“I don’t believe in marriage,” says Susan, a marketing manager in her mid-30s, who earns a five-figure salary. “Many people stay married not because they are genuinely in love, but because of the children. Or they can’t manage financially. Others are just too afraid of the social repercussions of divorce.”

Susan feels it will be too “demanding and exhausting” for one person to provide for all her needs. Raymond fulfils her sexually, and Michael, mentally, she says.

Read more HERE.

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